Let love blossom - Christian dating tutorial

To create a Christian dating ad which will put you above 95 % of the competition follow the simple instructions ahead. Fortunately for women the online dating scene is predominantly male in terms of numbers. This works to your advantage - more fish to choose from. This doesn’t mean that you can rest on your laurels however. You will still need at least a cursory knowledge of what motivates men, and your own original creative touch.

Putting together a great Christian dating ad will take a little effort, but will prove to be very rewarding both in the positive feedback from respondents and catching that ideal mate.

Now, Let’s get started.

First we must structure the ad so as to make the most sense while grabbing his attention and keeping him locked on you. Make them want to read your ad using compelling imagery. Remember men are more visually stimulated than you are. (Generally speaking)

The following are the simple steps to a dynamite Christian dating ad.

1. First things first. Use a complimentary photo of yourself. Alluring is good, but remember that your audience is Christian men. Be careful not to offend sensibilities. Be sure to project yourself as warm and inviting. Smile and look into the camera. Looking away makes you seem aloof. You’ll want to use body language that tells him to come a little bit closer. (See Christian Dating 101 section on using body language to create moods in the archives section)

2. Salutations - According to Parade magazine a simple Hi! is a great opener. no one expects you to open with complicated greetings. This is just the ice breaker. (See Christian Dating 101 section on the five levels of communication)

3. Personal introduction - Give your name and or nickname if you wish.

4. Biographical information - Start out with an opener which will grab his attention and reach into his heart. Appeal to him emotionally. Make him have to read your ad! After this stage give him the facts and fancies. You will want to paint a vivid mental picture of your life.

Be honest in your Christian dating profile and avoid the heartbreak of separation caused by dishonesty. Maybe he would rather have a school marme than a diva after all! Let him know your Christian faith. The man who answers will need information on which to connect and converse about.

This is your Christian dating bio, so include what you wish. Items usually mentioned are; age, occupation, marriage history and children, race, place of birth, where you live, favorite foods, entertainment preferences, hobbies, music tastes, and education.

Finally, give them some tangible asset about yourself to make him want you. No boasting. Put it in such a way that you do not seem over the top. Put it something like - I’ve often been told that I have a great laugh or that I’m a great cook.

5. Your desires. Now that you have told him you know who you are, tell him you know what you want. Do you want a down to earth guy? Say so. The macho poser type men will be repelled and the man who appreciates it most will answer your call. Be descriptive and to the point in your Christian personal profile!

6. Conclusion - Now that you have told him who you are and what you want, paint a picture in your Christian dating profile of what your lives might be like together. Something romantically appealing works wonders. Woo him. Be careful in your invitation not to use negative or conditional words like - if you are the one. Instead of this use - you are the one I would love to warm up by the fire with. He will know when you are speaking to him, if he is the one. Use these final words to make him feel like a kindred soul.

Once your Christian dating ad is structured coherently we must now ensure that the following elements have been included.

1. Salutation - Short, polite. Hi! or Howdy, whatever best suits who you are.

2. Descriptive adjectives - Positive and powerful superlatives which will enhance his imagery experience and build curiosity. Let your zest for life and love infect him through your description. This is all he has to go by at this point.

3. Spelling and grammar - Look intelligent, educated, and thoughtful. Consult a spell check or dictionary and correct errors. We are not all English professors, perhaps you have a trusted friend who will help you formulate a correct and appealing ad. If you can do it all on your own then it is usually a good idea to have someone critique your writing. Christian dating profiles especially should convey the best image of the author since you are fishing for long term Christian relationships.

4. Warm text - Use key words that stimulate emotion. Words such as fun, romance, love, happiness, and feel give a warmth to your writing and will give him a positive reading experience. Again, this will give him a little insight as to what life with you might be like.

5. Courtesy - Don’t use harsh language or slang. (especially in a Christian dating profile) You will want to come across in a Christian dating forum as polite. Let your faith speak in the gentile tone of your words. Remember you are appealing to Christian men.

Even if your audience was not Christian singles and was instead going to be bikers, manners are still safe and appreciated. We realize that there is a trend toward extremism out there that feels the need to shock. This is even more prevalent online than in public since there is no authority to keep individuals like that in check. He will appreciate you even more for being a lady online. We stress this point which to most just seems like common sense because this is what gets the best results.

6. Use coherent text in your Christian dating profile - Tell your story and what you are seeking. Go logically from point a to point b in a manner that flows and is not choppy. Don’t jump around. A clear and well structured Christian personal ad will speak volumes about your intellect and your ability to structure your own personal life.

7. Spur him to action - At the end of your ad be sure to urge them to reply now. You don’t want them to put it off for a second! The longer we wait without acting the less chance we will ever act. feelings are fleeting, we must get them to act while the feeling is still in the present. Be careful not to seem pushy or bossy. Make it a suggestion. Say something like - Why not email me now and seize the day with me? I’ll be right here waiting for you !

Writing a dynamic and dynamite Christian personal ad will require some creative effort. Follow the steps outlined above and you will outshine 95 % of the competition.

Best wishes from the staff, now go get him!

To see an example of a great Christian dating ad click on the link below.

Dynamite Christian Dating Ad