Welcome Christian Single Men

Don’t strike out, Keep your eye on the ball with this Christian Dating primer.

Let’s begin by discussing structure. Structure will give a logical flow to your Christian singles audience (The ladies). There is nothing worse than a scatter-brained personal that is too busy, it really turns women off.

1. First things first, let’s begin with the picture. Women are not visually stimulated in the way men are, so seductive is not the key. You must be well groomed and approachable. Look into the camera. Looking away will make you seem aloof. Use inviting body language. Smile, and bear your neck dimple. (Where the collar bone meets the neck) Military uniforms and business suits (ties) cover this area for a reason. We cover this vulnerable area so as not to portray vulnerability. In your personal ad you want vulnerability. Remember you are targeting Christian women. For a more in depth overview of inviting body language see the archives on body language in the Christian Dating 101 pages.

2. Salutations - According to Parade magazine a simple Hi! is a great opener. no one expects you to open with complicated greetings. This is just the ice breaker. (See Christian Dating 101 section on the five levels of communication)

3. Personal introduction - Give your name and or nickname if you wish.

4. Biographical information - Start out with an opener which will grab her attention and reach into her heart. Appeal to her emotionally. Women are more emotionally centered. Make her have to read your ad! After this stage give her just the facts. This directness shows strength and confidence. Both are qualities which women need. These qualities trump all others. (See Christian Dating 101)

Be honest to avoid the inevitable heartbreak of separation caused by dishonesty. Maybe she would rather have a plumber than the CEO of Microsoft after all! Let her know your faith. Women (especially Christian single women) love righteous conviction in a man.

This is your Christian dating bio, so include what you wish. Items usually mentioned are; age, occupation, marriage history and children, race, place of birth, where you live, favorite foods, entertainment preferences, hobbies, music tastes, and education.

Finally, give Christian single women (your audience) some tangible asset about yourself to make her want you. No boasting. Put it in such a way that you do not seem arrogant. Put it something like - I’ve been told that I have a great sense of humor or that I’m a great cook.

5. Your desires. Now that you have told them you know who you are, tell them you know what you want. Do you want a down to earth gal? Say so. The divas will be repelled and the Christian single women who appreciate it the most will answer your call. Be to the point and descriptive!

6. Conclusion - Now that you have told your Christian single woman audience who you are and what you want, paint a picture of what your lives might be like together. Something romantically appealing works wonders. Just in case you haven’t noticed women love romance. (Christian single women are no exception) Woo her. Be careful in your invitation not to use negative or conditional words like - if you are the one. Instead of this use - you are the one I would love to warm up by the fire with. She will know when you are speaking to her, if she is the one. Use these final words to make her feel like a kindred soul.

Once your Christain dating ad (profile) is structured coherently we must now ensure that the following elements have been included.

1. Salutation - Short, polite. Hi! or Howdy, whatever best suits who you are.

2. Descriptive adjectives - Positive and powerful superlatives which will enhance her imagery experience and build curiosity. Let your zest for life and love infect her through your description. Remember, this is all she has to go by at this point.

3. Spelling and grammar - Look intelligent, educated, and thoughtful! Consult a spell check or dictionary and correct errors. We are not all English professors, perhaps you have a trusted friend who will help you formulate a correct and appealing ad. If you can do it all on your own then it is usually a good idea to have someone critique your writing.

4. Warm text - Use key words that stimulate emotion. Words such as fun, romance, love, happiness, and feel give a warmth to your writing and will give other Christian singles a positive reading experience. Again, this will give her a little insight as to what life with you might be like.

5. Courtesy - Don’t use harsh language or slang. You will want to come across in a Christian dating forum as polite. Let your faith speak in the genteel tones of your words. Keep your eye on the ball, remember you are appealing to Christian single women.

Even if your audience were going to be biker women manners are still safe and appreciated. We realize that there is a trend of extremism out there that feels the need to shock. This is even more prevalent online than in public since there is no authority to keep people like that in check. Christian single women will appreciate you even more for being a gentleman online. We stress this point which to most just seems like common sense because this is what gets the best results in Christian dating.

6. Use coherent text in your Christian dating profile - Tell your story and what you are seeking. Go logically from point a to point b in a manner that flows and is not choppy. Don’t jump around. A clear and well structured personal ad will speak volumes about your intellect and your ability to structure your own personal life.

7. Spur her to action - At the end of your ad be sure to urge your Christian single viewers to reply now. You don’t want them to put it off for a second! The longer we wait without acting the less chance there is we will ever act. feelings are fleeting, we must get them to act while the feeling is still in the present. Be careful not to seem pushy or bossy. Make it a suggestion. Say something like - Why not email me now and seize the day with me? I’ll be right here waiting for you !

Writing a dynamic and dynamite Christian dating ad will require some creative effort. Follow the steps outlined in this tutorial and you will outshine 95 % of the other personal ads out there.

Ahead we have a little treat for you. Would you like to know how to best answer a Christian single ladies personal ad? If so, click below. To see an example of a great Christian dating ad click below also.

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