Transform Your Love Life!

Dear Christian singles, Welcome! Let me begin by asking you (the one for whom this Christian dating site was made) a few questions about some of the great paradoxes of our day. These are probably questions which you have not considered, but they are critically important issues for our purposes ahead.

Why is it that in this unique age of instant global communications people are more lonely than ever? In fact loneliness is a silent epidemic. Many people both young and old are driven to depression, despair, and even suicide by an inability to make meaningful personal connections with others. Many search want ads, surf the web, or join a Christian singles service and exhaust themselves searching.

How could it be that with the ever growing armies of counselors and psychology “experts” the toll of broken relationships (and their fallout; depression, substance abuse etc.) is rising aggressively with no cures on the horizon? All they (the experts) have to offer is more of the same, which is proven not to work. No doubt you are aware that the divorce rate is at an historical all time high. It is so bad that children have even gotten into the act of divorcing their parents. There are other forms of estrangement which have become common place in our society which are especially peculiar to our generation: Elderly parents are sent off to homes, and it is common for parents to raise someone else’s children (Step children and adoptions) instead of their own. The estrangement (alienation) is rampant, we have become desensitized to it’s adverse effects and even it’s unnatural existence.

NOTE TO CHRISTIAN SINGLES: Psychology has gotten some things right, but they are not the issue right now, you are.

Before we proceed any further in your Christian dating tutorial let me offer a brief synopsis of the profound information you will learn to apply towards achieving your most heartfelt desires. What you are about to learn is not like anything you have ever seen or heard before.

You will learn the five secrets to dramatically change your life for good. Deeper and more passionate relationships will be yours with little effort. And you will have all of the tools necessary to succeed at any undertaking (not just romance) that you set your heart to.

First we must lay the foundation, and then we will discover five secrets which have been hiding in plain sight until now.

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Now let’s proceed in restoring what the locusts have eaten in your life.

Dear Christian singles. Whoever you are, whatever your circumstances you can have and should have the partner of your dreams. I’m going to re-coin an old phrase; There is a right someone for everyone. You may not think of yourself as being worthy of having that ideal companion. NONSENSE ! Ahead I will show you how these superficial barriers are being broken down all the time by people who are in worse circumstances than yourself.

How does a prison inmate behind bars who has nothing positive to bring into the relationship manage to successfully woo a targeted female? We’ve all seen countless stories in the media of women who fall in love with cons both behind bars and on the outside. Over the years tens of thousands of inmates have found partners as isolated as they are. Their victims truly believe that they have a powerful “love connection”, but the tragic truth is that they are being used, no, abused by con artists - sociopaths who know the secret of cracking the locks on peoples hearts and endearing themselves to those around them when it is expedient to their scheme.

While they are yet behind bars they wield almost absolute control over their victims. These cons do not love these women but they have somehow convinced them that they do. Please don’t think that I’m going to suggest anyone do the same, I simply wish to convey three significant points.

1. These cons are at a heavy disadvantage when it comes to finding a companion. If they can do it, so can you. (except yours will be genuine) And, they do not have the luxury of online dating the same as we do. Apply the principles ahead and you will succeed in “Christian dating online,” or any other dating forum.

2. These women were not (contrary to popular belief) looking to fall for a con. Many of these women are bright professionals who got caught up in the con game. It can happen to just about anyone. Wealthy men fall prey to gold diggers everyday. Whole nations can fall prey, consider pre-world war two Germany which was wooed by that madman and super con artist - Adolf Hitler. The German people were not looking to fall for a tyrant but fall they did, and hard. You will learn the signs so that you will never be the victim.

3. By knowing the powerful secrets exercised by these cons we can be and should be ever on the alert for those who would attempt to control us. Until now this mystery of their power to win the hearts of those around them has gone largely unidentified.

These principles and secrets may be applied positively not just in “Christian dating”, but in a wider dynamic range to:

Supercharge your love life!

Christian singles, why is it that after tens of thousands of self help books, tapes, CD’s, lectures, courses, and seminars have tried to solve our problems the problems just keep getting worse? They have not delivered, but, then why should the social gurus want to solve any problems? It would be counterproductive for them to put an end to people‘s problems, they would lose all of the power and control they have diligently worked for. Some of us have successfully overcome our problems in life, but it is largely in spite of the “masters” not because of them.

There are many more profound social paradoxes which have cropped up in our generation which we will discuss later. For now I would like you, the thoughtful reader to ponder these ironies as we progress through the thesis of this course for Christian dating and put the pieces of the puzzle together. As we discover the answers the principles will become obvious, and take shape in your mind. You will outwardly express them effortlessly.

These germane points above are all interrelated and will prove highly instructive for those of us who wish to achieve our goals in finding deep, lasting, and loving relationships with not just a spouse, but with all of those around us.

Dear reader, when you go to bed at night in the still moments before sleep does your heart tend to take off on flights of fancy? This is your heart chasing it’s neglected desires. We are all guilty of suppressing that starving heart within. The day brings responsibilities, burdens, and disappointments which conspire to quench the hearts flame. We (even Christian singles) tend to lose heart and abandon our dreams. Is this you dear reader? What dreams have you abandoned? Does your heart still cry out at the end of the day to be heard?

Dreams are the engines of success in any endeavor whether it be romance, business, or happiness. Our aim ahead will be to restore your dream engine to it’s original condition and get you motivated and excited again. Life does not have to be dull, indeed it should not be dull. Let yourself live the heart’s adventure you’ve been aching for all your life.

Since you are still reading this, I will assume that you are interested in freeing yourself to love and dream as you were designed to.

Through the gathering chaos this single story of truth is striving to be told to an audience such as you, the Christian single. This is your key to the happiness which God has purposed for your life!

It is supremely important that we as Christian singles and imperfect beings shed all of the negative hostilities that we may harbor one toward another, especially when it comes to issues between men and women. We must deal with imperfect people perfectly. We must forgive others for transgressions, insults, and injuries whether real or imagined. Why?

” We forgive in the degree that we love.” - Rochefoucauld

We tend to think of forgiveness towards our enemies, but we should also forgive our friends, family, and spouses.

Without forgiveness the walls we have erected as a defense mechanism will never come down, and that dynamic love which we all desire will be forever beyond our grasp. By forgiving you have taken the first step in extending love towards one another.

If you can do this CONGRATULATIONS. You have just liberated yourself, you are FREE to love more deeply and take up your Christian singles quest with a clean heart.

You were charitable in the face of wrong done to you while they were yet undeserving. They never asked for your forgiveness, nor were they even aware of the personal pardon which you granted unconditionally. This is an act of unconditional love. You have it in you. Some fortunate soul will thank God for the privilege of your blessed hand one day.

Dear reader if you find yourself unable to forgive at this point in your life do not lose heart. For everything there is a time and a season.

In continuing your Christian Dating course the next step is imperative:

Christian singles as you probably are aware people love you in large measure for what you bring out in them. If you torture others and make them think negatively towards you then they will behave negatively towards you in return. But, if you inspire them, cheer them and love them then they will most always reciprocate. By putting the powerful principles we have touched on into action you will bring out the best in others. Besides just for yourself, wouldn’t it be worth this small effort to enrich the lives of others? It would be a good deed to be sure.

“So shines a good deed in a naughty world.” - Shakespeare

As I promised at the beginning of this course I will tell you the answer as to why more people (as a percentage) are lonely today than ever before in history. Allow me to first begin by asking you a question. Ever wonder why it is the more psychologists, social engineers, and social workers we enlist to combat the problem of loneliness and broken relationships the worse the problem becomes? The answer is: they don’t have the answer, and worst of all their remedies are compounding the problem.

A man will never find love by contacting his inner-child or by drinking a certain brand of beer or having an over bloated self-esteem, and a woman will never find love even with the most extreme makeover. Love is much too elegant and real to be had by psycho fakery and vanity. Let us get off the perpetual treadmill of loneliness engineered by modern psychology. Free yourself from the con game. It is costing us a great deal of dollars and sense. Don’t you see that going to them is funding your own relational demise? Christian singles dating and all interpersonal relations are not rocket science!

Note: We will be getting into weightier matters soon. The foundation is yet being laid.

Both the common variety con and Hitler types use the same techniques of control, and abuse. They are both tyrants just at different levels of achievement. Christian singles what do you suppose is the secret of their power over others? It is a mystery which has been hidden in plain sight until now!

Dear Christian singles, Imagine if you could use the same powers to the benefit of yourself and those around you. Not only would you be able to discern evil manipulations, (from other so called “Christian singles”) but enable yourself to put these charismatic principles into action in Christian dating to achieve your deepest desires. Have the love, passion, affection your heart deserves and has been aching for all your life.

What does this mean for you? A more excellent way of life rich with rewards. An old poem declares:

I labored for a menials hire,
Only to learn dismayed,
That any wage I would have asked of life,
Life would have gladly paid. - J. B. Rittenhouse

If you, dear reader desire splendid relationships full of warmth, happiness, and passion life will be glad to pay you that wage. Please read on. Life is all about people, there is nothing else except things. Disclaimer for you sticklers out there- God is a person, not in the physical, but He is a person of the Trinity. These are not tools to manipulate others but are best used to establish deeper and more rewarding relations with people.

The Lord has purposed that we should have life and love more abundantly:

John 10:10 “The thief cometh not, but for to steal and to kill and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.”

God says that you can have these things, what has been holding you back? Certainly not God. The answer lies ahead. It will surprise you

At this point we are going to separate the men and women, as the following information is gender specific. Ahead you will discover the first universal trait in a perspective mate which all men and women need. This is the first of five traits that people consider most (although subliminally) when choosing a partner. Christian singles these traits trump all others in the decision making process for selecting a mate.

Of course the ladies are allowed to go into the men’s section and vice versa, as we should do nothing in secret. Just behave yourselves ;^)

 Christian Dating 101  cont.

 Men’s Section                                Women’s Section

“A MAN’S STRENGTH IS HIS CHARM,  JUST AS A WOMAN’S CHARM IS HER STRENGTH”